To me, a male who just likes to hurt things and has no compassion is a complete sadist, and less than a man.
And then the generals can only hope to have the vaguest notion of what they are doing.
If we are narcissistically damaged, the definition of happiness is likely to include a disregard of threats, a lack of empathy, and the inappropriate expressions of it mentioned by the author.
I hate that it's so hard and that you can hurt me so much.